April 29, 2013 § 1 Comment
I grew up in a Chinese Household think Joy Luck Club. My mom is the type who would boil medicinal herbs and drink it with full confidence of its worth, she would regularly force us to drink some and we would device ways and means to get away from it. I also studied in a Chinese school so most of my classmates have kinda the same thing going for them at home. So Ge Lai is a common thing in our house and we grew up believing in its value. For us after giving birth doing Ge Lai is as important.
When I was pregnant with Kite, I had to rely on my mom to take care of my food so everyday the driver brings the food to me sa Balintawak, ang hassle. I wish there was someone, somewhere to order these food na lang. Then 11 years later, when I was about to give birth to Laya, same thing I still had the same wish. I had a friend from Singapore buy me cookbooks for Ge Lai. Hirap but she was able to score me several. I was able to teach our helper to cook the Ge Lai food and ang sarap ha! Basta sesame oil, ginger and wine are staple sa ingredients.
Fast forward to last year, I was told by my friend na her kinakapatid is into Ge Lai food, wah was too excited and was so happy to meet them. Last 2 weeks ago I was finally able to taste their Black Chicken. Ayan na pa blog ako kasi I feel for the moms who’s parents are either too far, too busy or not there anymore to do the Ge Lai for them.
Kaya am introducing Mama Chow by Chef Jonathan Chua, his wife Raquel naman owns Ginquelrus Pastries yummy goodies, she got lactation cookies and cupcakes too that are so yummy. Been ordering her Cheese Cupcake like crazy.
Anyway, here’s how the Black Chicken looks like packed. And uploading some of their literature too.
Yan just order from them if you dont have anybody cooking Ge Lai food for you. I really suggest eating Ge Lai food to help your body recover from birthing. I will try to look for the recipes too that I love from the Ge Lai Cookbooks I got. (Thanks Candy!)
August 17, 2012 § 7 Comments
This post is not just about Breastfeeding but also about NewlywedsAtWork (N@W). Ok backgrounder. N@W is an offshoot of WeddingsAtWork (W@W). We have our W@W Website and our W@W eGroup who live, talk & breathe wedding preps day in and day out. Since it is inevitable for the members who are married to discuss others things after their wedding, we created N@W, in N@W we discuss anything and everything, showbiz, recipes, shopping, travels, investments and whole lot more but of course majorly about being parents. N@W is my magic place, my solace, my refuge, my go to place. Things I cant post in FB as they are too personal I can easily post in N@W. My motherhood journey is made doubly and triply better because I got N@Wies to share and enjoy it with. I was able to successfully and easily breastfeed solely because of N@W. I actually hesitate blogging about N@W because I am not keen on making it a bigger group than it already is… ssshhhh (di ko talaga binigay ang link noh)
Ok now that you understand how much N@W means to me, then you can easily understand why I wanted to organize the N@W Breastfeed Marathon Shoot. Am actually dumbfounded why I didnt think of this last year or the year before. I was tagged by Stan and Jenny on their Breastfeed Shoot Project and it was just then when it hit me why not make one for N@W. On Aug 2 I sent some text message here and there, emailed the N@Wies asking if anybody’s interested and by Aug 4 the shoot was set and we had 16 mommies (with varied ages of babies from 2 months old to 3 years old and we also have a twins in the set, galing!) which grew to 20 and 19 made it 🙂 We didnt have a theme nor a look nor a peg we just wanted a breastfeeding shot so we can join in celebrating Breastfeeding Month and at the same time have the N@Wie moms have a nice portrait of them breastfeeding for posterity. Hopefully it would help make them ambassadors of breastfeeding among their own peers.
How the shoot came about and thank you’s… First to Stan Ong for saying yes he is willing to do it; to Abie & Clarice for saying yes it is a great idea and they will join… those were my first yesses and it fueled me to go on so when schedule with Stan didnt work out, my next yesses came in the form of Lisa and then John Mateos Ong. Aug 3 when the studio we were eyeing still didnt reply I got a yes from Nelwin agreeing to let us use his studio Cocoon then Chichi came in to say she would want to put some quick make up on the moms, all this while the excited mommies kept emailing they wanna join. Then finally I spoke with Jong and Monique everything was easily set, Life by ImagineNation na daw bahala, then ako pa ang choosy I asked sino pipicture haha when he said Arlene of The Boudoir Dolls I knew it will be perfect na, then he said we can shoot in his place where there is daylight, where there is a big space and he can send us photogs (with S) aside from Arlene to shoot us. And just like that the shoot was finalized na. Special shout out to Bea, Olive & Brianna for being so gaan and so accommodating with all of us being such stage moms and dads, sorry walang kain break atat na stage parents andun eh! Special shout out to Chichi who didnt have along line aba minsan sila pa naghihintay ng next! Iba kayo Team Chichi (am proud to say before she became a professional make up artist W@Wie din siya)! And special shout out to Monique who made things happen, a day before she texted me what do we need, I said water and she had a water dispenser and cups ready, I said we will bring snacks na lang and she had tables for snacks ready, I told the group come early then let kids play, she made a play area with mats and provided toys for the kids too. Diba ang smooth!
Day of the Shoot! It was so much fun, no stress, no complain, no I WISH, no WE SHOULD HAVEs during the shoot and I was truly amazed how it all just worked out. We were even able to take advantage of the shoot and not only did we have breastfeeding shots but also kiddie portraits and family portraits as well. Each family got to shot at all the 3 set ups (black background set up; white background set up and the daylight set up) and we even had Jeff & Lisa take behind the scene shots while waiting for our turns. We didnt have diva moms who wanted to hog time, we didnt have bratty kids who ruined the mood of other kids (oh of course we had whiny kids but none that whined the whole time) I was wondering how come this shoot was so smooth and my only conclusion was because it was a family, we didnt care if a mom had to singit and shoot first kasi her kids suddenly went to the sofa na, it didnt matter if I am the next but a baby is suddenly feeding na so siya na una nag fe-feed na eh, it didnt matter if some had a go at the set several times and some once lang. It was a FAMILY and there was so much love in the set. There so so much love that we ended up posting and texting endless thank you’s the whole night via phone and via FB as we all felt the magic. Before I get too sappy… here please enjoy our shoot. Am proud to say N@W has been and will continue to be a big tool, resource, support to breastfeeding mommies.
To the mommies… N@W is happy to be able to give you this portrait. May you find these pictures when your kids are all grown up and be transported back to this wonderful chapter of your journey as a mom. If these photos help convince even just one of your friend to breastfeed then what a great gift we gave back to the world.
And Happy Breastfeeding Month to all.
Read Mommy Tina of TrulyRichMom’s blog on this.
September 22, 2011 § 12 Comments
Clarice posted sa N@W na may group of developmental pedia who wants to conduct free assessment for kids so syempre sign up ako for Laya. Result came out and all are great except for locomotor skills, so lagay pala na ito eh di pa naman masyadong pinapa explore si Laya, so super atat akong mag punta sa kung saang saang park with Laya to let her feel vast space and walk around and do whatever. Ito ang aming UP adventure. Am lining up parks for her to go to…
My list (got these from my FB friends)
Nuvali (super wanna go here kasi may Koi pond eh Laya is so cute when she says fish with action pa, actually 2 actions niya for fish one is from Ninang Michelle and she calls the action nnn-nang)
Eco Park (but malayo daw eh so hmm bahala na)
UP sa likod ng Oblation (sabi Tisha)
Eton Centris (ito nakita ko as in super nasa plan ko na ito maski kami lang)
TechnoHub (this came as a suggestion so maybe para sa Kanin Club!)
I want Laya to be able to touch leaves, dirt sa ground, run, madapa, and all that. Si Kite kasi halos hindi nakaka outdoor, so rare na rare and sugat so maliit na sugat may takot na agad siya, eh ako nga nung bata eh mala mapa sa laki ang sugat na nagiging langib eh. Hope Laya will be more outdoorsy. Pero saksakan ng tamad maglakad itong si Laya! Hay diyos mio. Need to force her talaga to walk.
Type ko lang mag blog ng mag blog 🙂
September 2, 2011 § 9 Comments
This entry was supposed to be up yesterday (the other day na pala kasi lumampas ako ulit) last day ng Breastfeeding month. The idea came to me after I saw Clarice’s breastfeeding picture, kala ko madali lang, just grab the pictures from FB then post isang entry na agad. Nyeks di pala kasi I would remember may iba pa palang picture so hahanapin ko muna sa external disk ko, tapos chineck ko din iPhone album ko if I have more etc, then finding out what date the picture was taken etc. Tapos siningit ko muna yung entry for Didda’s Bday ayun naiwan na ito.
Anyway, I am not naman wanting to have breastfeeding pictures but sometimes we dont have time to wait till Laya finishes feeding and take the picture so if on the go, picture na kung picture keber kung feeding siya o hindi. I guess lucky ako kasi unang breastfeeding picture ko si Stan ang kumuha (am comfy with him kasi asawa yan ni Jenny na breastfeeding advocate so he had seen his share na, besides when I breastfeed for sure walang exposure involved (I am super not comfy seeing exposure while breastfeeding, I super do not like it, please dont impose your boobies to others naman na), also sayang yung 1 hour allotment sa Stork Studio session so maski Laya needs a break to feed ayy picture time pa din yun hahaha) tapos umani pa ng puri yung shot so na flatter naman ako.
Wedding ni CJ & Ira nag gate crash si Laya dito, nasalubong namin si Oly di ko alam paano sasabihin am feeding so nagpose na lang ako 🙂 | Laya at 4 months (photo by Oly Ruiz of Metrophoto | nursing wear by Plume | Santuario San Jose) July 2010
Breastfeeding Month 2010 Latch’s Exhibit in Eastwood Mall | Laya at 5 months (photo by Didda | nursing wear by Plume) August 2010
I love this shot taken by Didda via his iPhone, banca ride back to Club Paradise | Laya at 9 months December 2010
At Bataan | Laya at 10 months (photo by Didda |nursing wear by Mamaway) January 2011
Mae’s Baby Shower at Threelogy Office | Laya at 10 months (photo by Cielo? | nursing wear by Mamaway) January 2011
Circus Act at home | Laya at 11 months (photo by Kite | nursing sleepwear by Mothercare) February 2011
Sydney Harbor Bridge & Opera House at night | Laya at 15 months (photo by John Sudario | nursing wear by Mamaway) May 2011
Bondi Beach, Australia | Laya at 15 months (photo by Didda | nursing wear Mamaway) May 2011
Sydney’s Pitt Street Mall | Laya at 15 months (photo by Leng & Didda | nursing wear Mamaway) May 2011
Sydney’s Darling Harbor | Laya at 15 months (photo by Kite | nursing wear by Blissful Babes sleepwear actually yan) May 2011
Sorry this is just an indulgence post. It’s me patting myself on the back. There’s no more picture of me feeding the past few months kasi Laya feeds mostly at night time now.
Thanks. I doubt if next breastfeeding month am still this active, oh well. Happy Breastfeeding Month to all!
August 11, 2011 § 4 Comments
Our baby Laya turned 1 last March and instead of having a big birthday party we had pocket celebrations and a birthday pictorial. The pocket parties were planned, we started with a family dinner (just people in our house), a family dinner (all of Didda’s side) and another party in Australia where we spent the summer. The pictorial on the other hand wasn’t planned it just fell into place. We had quarterly shoot with The Stork Studio and on her 9th month Sofia suggested an outdoor shoot but we were not ready for it so we had it inside the studio, but on our way home after the 9th month shoot, John said we can do outdoors the next time and just prepare a small table for four and have a small cake so we’d have a birthday themed pictorial since it will be her 12th month. That was my ‘aha’ moment and it turned into one big production number as soon as we got a nod from Teddy Manuel.
Please read more about the party, the suppliers involved and etc at W@W’s Blog or Didda Abet’s Blog or Mommy Manila’s Blog and please watch the video at Threelogy’s Blog shots from shoot of Phoeben Teocson Cinema 🙂
Am here to brag lang that the party is included in Smart Parenting’s Aug 2011 Issue on Party Special
We didn’t really plan this pictorial to be a full blown party pictorial but it turned that way and we are so happy. So happy that I would even recommend this to all, both those who intend to throw a big party and to those who don’t.
Why I like it?
1. We didnt spend a fortune throwing a party for her.
2. She didnt need to endure a party she wont remember yet we have party pictures for her to enjoy when she grow old.
3. We got a LOT of pretty family pictures. We always miss having family pictures during our parties because we are all busy entertaining our own guests and when we do get some snapshot they are hurried.
4. We got to do dream set up we wouldn’t be able to afford for an actual party.
5. It is so damn fun! We were just busy looking good and having fun, no guest to care for and no program to follow!
Oh I super suggest this to other families! Now if I can just convince Kite to not celebrate her debut haha!
August 5, 2011 § 11 Comments
August 5, 1999, St Luke’s Medical Center
1st Birthday Party at Grilla, Libis ‘Up Up & Away Party’
2nd Birthday Party at ‘What’s Your Beef?’
3rd Birthday Party at Zong’s Retiro ‘生日快樂 Theme’
4th Birthday Party at City Center Bldg ‘Barrio Fiesta Theme’
5th Birthday Party McDo ForbesTown
6th Birthday Party at home
7th Birthday Party at C3 Events Place ‘Walk Down the Aisle Theme’
8th Birthday Party at home ‘Simpson’s Theme’
9th Birthday Party at home
10th Birthday/Cory’s Burial/Laya’s ‘It’s Positive’ News Party
11th Birthday Party at Blue Leaf ‘Arts and Crafts Theme’
12th Birthday Party at Cerchio Restaurant
For every party we plan we give most effort on the invitation and the cake. Kaya bigyan natin ng space yung mga career cakes niya.
Cake Topper from Gift Gate, you wouldn’t know where the topper ended & the cake design started sa galing ng paggawa ni Virginia
5th Birthday – Cakes by Virginia
Habang hinahanap ko mga pictures I saw the ‘furniture’ we gave Kite so am posting them na din 🙂
Happy Birthday Kite! We love you so much!
August 2, 2011 § 9 Comments
After sharing my Breastfeeding Story of Kite. Here is Laya’s naman:
We had Laya 11 years after Kite and 11 years din after forming NewlywedsAtWork (N@W) so we were armed with a thriving support group whose members have practically been through everything that could possibly happen, we have all kinds of moms there: breastfeeding moms, formula feeding moms, mixed feeders, those who had a hard time breastfeeding, never attempted breastfeeding, longing to be a mom, wouldn’t want to be a mom ever, being a mom more often than they would want to and what have you. I knew motherhood will be so much more fun this time with so many mommies to run to for any of my most trivial questions. I knew my chances of successfully breastfeeding Laya is high, as I am very good friends with Velvet and Abbie who are experts and studied breastfeeding (their actual title escape me now); am friends too with Jenny who’s blog Chronicles of a Nursing Mom is all about breastfeeding; am friends with a lot of the members of Latch (another breastfeeding group) and there’s so many breastfeeding moms in N@W (that we can even form our own breastfeeding group if needed), need I add more? Ahh I almost forgot, hubby Abet is I think keener than me in making this breastfeeding business a success.
Hubby would bribe me by saying sige breastfeed ka, if you are still breastfeeding mag Cebu na tayo as reward by May. Syempre ako atat sa lakwatcha kaya effective naman his idea. We stayed in a hotel muna for a night to try it out. Successful kami so we went to Tagaytay for a night the week after to see if we can do it again and see how Laya behaves to traveling, aba it was easy! Off we went to Cebu as soon as Laya turned 1 month old 🙂 Hiya ko lang tumigil after Cebu diba? hahaha
Seriously, I think what really clinched it for me was hearing Mimi say I never entertained the thought I wont be able to breastfeed, basta ako mag be-breastfeed, it was so simple, yet so powerful! Whenever I wanted to stop or doubted I would remember how she said it and I remember, of course I am going to continue breastfeeding.
Let me start on the day I gave birth. I was induced March 29 and had Laya that afternoon. Wasn’t able to see Laya again til 12 hours after, by then I was told she was given glucose water already. Am old na, I dont sweat the small stuff anymore. Fine, I just told the nurse nothing anymore after that kasi I will purely breastfeed. I tried to make Laya latch and was so happy she took it in so naturally but she wasn’t hungry and was more interested to sleep. Me too, I wanted to sleep too so I went back to my room na but I requested rooming in of Laya as soon as possible. Well she was roomed afternoon na. And Velvet, my one and only visitor (we didn’t let friends visit kasi we intend to breastfeed so we dont know the schedule when Laya would want to feed, ayaw ko naman mag feed with visitors around; she dont do personalvisits anymore ha, she did it for me lang kasi love niya ako heheh) was able to visit me that day to help make sure I will be off to a good start. She watched and taught me how to latch, taught us to look at the jaw to watch and listen to her swallow, to feed and feed and feed by demand, to not even look at the clock and worry just let baby lead, to put as much of the areola in and make sure it is not just the nipple (it is the nerves in the areola that signals the mind to produce milk) most common mistake is the latching, if you latch right I think there’s 80% success. Velvet also taught us how to massage Laya. We had a smooth breastfeeding routine with Laya at the hospital that night.
As we were about to discharge from the hospital the next day I felt pain in my nape, it felt exactly what they said high blood pressure would feel like, had my BP taken yes it was getting high. I was still discharged but what I was feeling was scary na. Got home and immediately texted Nay Lita Nery (lactating masseuse) to help relax me and at the same time make sure latching is correct. She came and taught me how to feed lying down and I think 2 more positions. My BP remained high and went higher pa. The fact it was Maundy Thursday made things worse for me as I didnt want to go to the hospital on Good Friday all my doctors are away! To make things worst I was also instructed by my OB not to take care of Laya and I am not allowed to breastfeed at night! Huwat? I didnt want to feed formula and I didnt have extra milk. Worst I didnt have a yaya as the yaya who will take care of Laya is our helper whom I haven’t trained yet. And hubby the only other possible person to take care is sniffing and looks like he is going to get sick! Oh that was one super stressful Thursday for me. Lucky I have friends! First Dee came to the rescue she not only gave me milk, she delivered it pa! I had no way of getting the milk at this point (this is also why whenever I donate and I feel that the mom or dad asking for the milk have no way of getting I do personal deliver of the milk as much as I can, aside from not knowing how to handle the milk it is a really a very busy time for new parents). Milk problem solved! Now I needed someone to care for Laya, one whom I can safely leave Laya with, lucky for me Medical City’s nurse station helped me secure one. Sigh! All my immediate problems are solved. The midwife stayed with us that night and cup fed Laya. I wasnt able to sleep a wink. It was hard having somebody else in our bedroom and I missed Laya too. Oh added to the already stressful situation was my dilemna, all the ge-lai food I should eat are also the same food a high blood patient shouldn’t be eating ayayyay! Good think my childhood friend Nancy (my friend since I was 1 year old) took me under her wing, she’d cook a big pot of whatever food I am to eat that day, she’d bring it to me before lunch and then I would reheat the remaining portion for dinner (inaagawan pa ako ni Abet! kasi yummy) she’d carefully choose and ask what are the food allowed sa ge-lai and allowed sa high blood, yes fish nga with lotsa soup! She’d bring it to our place while I am asleep and would teach my helper what to do with it. Am so blessed with so many friends talaga those days! We got over the high blood episode on Easter Sunday (so apt no?), and the midwifes trained Laya’s yaya on how to care for a baby too, she can do everything except she is not comfortable giving Laya a bath. Fair enough, I am also not comfortable entrusting Laya’s bath to her yet.
Breastfeeding Laya was smooth but it was hard. There’s pain, lack of sleep, doubts and a whole lot of other things. Major was the feeling na I cant function, cant do anything kasi a needy child is relying on me and would need me anytime. I remember it was Mother’s Day and I was awake middle of the night so I took that time to greet my mommy friends and hopefully disrupt their sleep. I was at this point wanting to stop breastfeeding na kasi am tired and aching and was really finding a valid reason to stop. Eh yun nga wala akong nahanap na reason so I went on. Every step of the way when the going got tough I would do mass texting, (my regular text victims were Velvet, Abbie, Jenny, Rica, JenCC, Dee, Mimi… either some or all of them hmm forgot who else) always may 2 or 3 na sasagot hehe. I also started going to Abbie’s La Leche Meet and also Breastfriend at Mary the Queen. I started going with so many hang ups, questions and I got my groove there. So my BF Support Group friends saw me turn into a swan. They were with me through all my issues and now am with them egging the newer ones to go on. Now am paying it forward na.
Why am I blogging about my breastfeeding story? 1. It is breastfeeding month kasi. and 2. After reading Confessions of a milk machine and Breastfeeding: It’s a Choice I felt the urge to blog or say my piece. But I also do not like to be perceived as puro breastfeeding na lang. The blog by Frances or better known as TopazMommy, I don’t want to be a lactivist, is so so true. So there.
While I am on a roll let me share na din Why I love breastfeeding.
1. It is so convenient. We just bring a small bag with change of diapers and clothes and a small towel to wipe and we are ready to go anywhere.
2. Because I breastfeed, I had a very easy time taking care of Laya, imagine we went on an overnight stay before she turned 1 month and had her riding an airplane by 6 weeks old, went out of the country for 6 weeks when she turned one.
3. Breastfeeding is the solution to everything! She falls? I feed her and she is ok; She is cranky? I feed her and she is ok; She got hurt? I feed her and she is ok; when she wants something she cant have and is about to throw a fit, I show her my booby and she forgets everything. Breastfeeding her solved EVERYTHING!
4. You know whats amazing, you have booby antennas that tells you your kid is hungry, you actually feel it before she cries that it is feeding time! The things you will realizes are simply so amazing.
5. I watch her feed and the muscle movements from her cheek, tongue and jaws am sure help her so much, while bottle feeder just suck and the milk comes out, the breastfeeder work on it so early and get to use na their muscles.
6. A breastfeeding baby can detect boobies even while asleep. This one still amazes me until now. Sometimes at night I just watch her and she knows which direction to face and when to open her mouth! Amazing talaga.
7. Breastmilk cures everything. I was a cynic too at first, OA naman yan ano magic? Have a cut? Rash? Itch? Put breastmilk and it really does cure! Did it and it worked 🙂
Miss U moments:
People who made it possible for me and helped me with this mommy journey!
Velvet – who would be my rah rah girl talaga throughout the journey. Did I also mention I met up with her for a one on one session on what to do with a newborn aside from about breastfeeding? And when I was looking for a midwife to care for Laya and was not getting anywhere she even offered to yaya Laya sa house namin, papahatid siya kay Atan and stay the night in our place, grabe my heart was filled with gratitude for that text she sent. Super duper thank you Velvet! I owe you!
Dee – she sent me milk when I wasn’t able to breastfeed, if I resorted to formula then and had a taste of convenience I am pretty sure I it would be super hard for me and will constantly be tempted. I also learned from her how to pack and freeze the milk, hers was so flat and so pretty to look at!
Mimi – since she is always no nonsense and frills free I go to her when I am stressed and true enough her ways are the simplest.
Rica – she is like me oldie na and habol baby na lang ito so we can relate with each other, her amazing story of being able to pump 16 oz in one sitting helped motivate me to reach that level.
Nancy, Grace & Morning – oh these are my childhood friends who fed me and made sure I dont stop the ge lai thing. Morning and I had a one on one session too on the meds and drinks to take.
Abbie, Jenny, JenCC, Rica – for always receiving my text and for most of the times replying 🙂
Didda – for making it so clear stop breastfeeding is not an option.
Laya is 16 months old now and we are still breastfeeding. She’s been taking solids since she was 6.5 months old and had her first taste of cow’s milk in Australia. Am now trying to let her get used to the taste of cows milk so she have milk to drink when I go out at night in preparation for the time I go out of the country. She is so loving the chocolate milk from MilkMan, yung fresh milk sometimes she likes sometimes she doesn’t, so what we do we milk the choco milk with milk na lang.
Again, if you are breastfeeding or would like to breastfeed, please know you can drop me a line here or thru my email or thru my facebook or text me if you have it. Would be more than happy to be part of your breastfeeding journey.
August 2, 2011 § 2 Comments
Let me share with you my story on breastfeeding Kite.
Abet & I just got married when we had Kite, being so young and ideal, we wanted the purest and the best. We started by taking the Birthing Class from Chiqui Brosas-Hahn, there we also learned about breastfeeding.
When Kite arrived we breastfed, when she feed in one breast the other would leak so I was told that means I have lots of milk. And I believed. But when Kite was 10 days old she developed fever for a few hours, my sister told me to have her checked since fever is not normal for newborn. We went to her pedia the next day, she was surprised to see Kite lost weight. She was scared Kite might have sepsis and is poor in sucking that is why she isn’t able to take enough milk. She made us go home and asked us to monitor Kite’s intake and output; and to also make her consume at least 20-24 oz of milk in 24 hours, if she cant then we need to confine her, also to get urine sample for testing and culture. She peed so little and trying to catch them in a container was so hard, it was midnight when we were finally able to get some sample. The next day we brought her to the doctor and we were still told we need to confine her as she barely drank the day before and her pee is not enough. We stayed in a hospital room but her temperature kept dropping she was at 25 or 26 degrees already, the room was already warm still she was cold.
The next day we decided to let her stay in the NICU where nurses can watch her round the clock and she can be in an incubator where temperature is controlled, our pedia also told us that she wants Kite seen by a neo-natalogist (a specialist on newborn babies). Oh I can still remember the fear inside us as doctors can’t pinpoint what was wrong with her, all test are negative but her behaviors showed sepsis. She was given antibiotics but it wasn’t working. They got urine to test, to culture, her blood too for test and they even performed a spinal tap on her to test and culture. I clearly remember asking the neonatalogist if there is a chance we wont be able to bring our baby home alive. (Months before the son of our good friend passed away, it started with a simple fever caused by a heart problem and in a matter of weeks their baby was gone.) We can just watching her behind a glass window not allowed to be inside the room where her incubator/insolite was. We got to touch her only when she started improving and was just allowed to touch her inside the incubator, cant hug nor kiss her 😦 Oh this is such horrible time for us, and add to that our savings were depleting! The day she was brought to the doctor was the day I stopped breastfeeding. My doctor actually said we can breastfeed even when she is in NICU we just stay at the corridor and the nurses will call us when she is hungry, but I didnt want to anymore. Breastfeeding drained me so much when we were still at home. She was always crying at night and I would jump off the bed to go to her which caused the first layer of my stitches to tear. (My OB ordered me to bathe already and she cant allow me to continue geh lai custom of not taking a bath para di pasukin ng lamig). I was mostly on auto pilot due to lack of sleep and add the anxiety over a sick baby, it was so taxing. So asking me to continue breastfeeding and staying in the corridor hospital was not an option for me. Oh! Kite started improving after the 5th or 6th day (it was a rollercoaster 6 days) and we were able to bring her home after 10 days I think. Diagnosis was clinical sepsis, all test were negative but symptoms were all there so clinical sepsis lang siya di siya sepsis. We spent as much on this hospitalization as on my birthing. She was hospitalized from August 17-29,1999.
Now did I regret not pursuing breastfeeding when she was back from the hospital? No because I felt so free na. (But if this happened now with me having access to so much support I would pursue relactating. Or most likely I would be pumping while she was in the hospital anyway.) Had there been enough support group then I would have made it I think.
Also breastfeeding Kite was an added reason why I never went back to smoking. I smoke before getting pregnant and stopped during pregnancy, though I wasn’t itching to smoke after giving birth still it dawned on me while breastfeeding that I can’t smoke even if I wanted to when childcare was becoming stressful.
Do I think mas stronger ang bond namin ni Kite if I breastfed? I dont know but we are quite very very well bonded so no regret too. Do I feel she’d be healthier? That I cannot answer.
Did I breastfeed my next child? Hell Yes! 16 months and counting…
July 8, 2011 § 6 Comments
SaYa is one carrier that proved to be challenging for me. To some like Charmaine, Clarice & Elai, it was easy. I guess added to the fact that the size I got was wrong, I also didnt have the patience to learn it. I would succesfully to do it while being taught but I always how after some time. Last BWM2 Buding (creator of SaYa) taught me how and hers was simple so I got it. I was able to wear Laya last Tuesday then again today so I know I got it na. Do I like it? Am not yet closing the door on it but I still like the flexibility of the slingor maybe it is really hard to teach old dogs new tricks. What I like about SaYa is it is easy on the back as the weight of baby is distributed equally on both shoulders. With the sling it is always my left shoulder carrying the load, I tried doing it on the other side but it felt awkward. Will keep trying the SaYa pa. Thanks pala Nadine for lending me the Saya. Will return yours already. Am decided to buy my own already.
Anyway, I am quite ‘feeling’ so I will attempt to explain here how it is used, hopefully successful ako but if I am not, no worries Buding just made 4 videos to guide us. Also here‘s Elai explaining how it is done the HULA way. Diyan ako nag fail so yung mga tulad kong fail sa HULA try ninyo ang LEI.
Step 1 Just put the thing in your neck like a LEI
Step 2 Loosen/separate the two loops (it will feel natural) then it will look like a PRETZEL (spread the cloth na din in this part and find the seams para yun ang nasa middle to catch the butt of the baby)
Step 3 let it fall sa shoulder
Step 4 put arms in the loop na. tada! you have the X in front and X in the back now.
Step 5 ilagay na ang baby sa loob
sa pinaka loob so it’s you then baby then the X in front. (please see this video of Buding. on how to do this step)
NOTE: pls make sure that the knees are higher than the butt; flatten the cloth or fold the cloth para mas swabe ang feeling.
Keep adjusting until you feel comfortable. You will learn it by always using it,so keep practicing till you get the hang of it..
Let me know if success ang aking explanation, if not kareerin ko ito, nacha-challenge ako eh.
Where to buy SaYa?
I got mine sa Babyland, am quite disappointed kasi the saleslady was just eager to sell and maski mali yung size sige ok daw yun. Hay ayun I didnt like SaYa tuloy for the longest time. Pls note unang suot of baby dapat fit na fit kayo not maluwag, luluwag yan as you wear baby eh.
Please please be successful!
Here’s a success story: Legally Mom:THE SEARCH IS OVER
Disclaimer: I bought my SaYa and will buy my next SaYa, I met the owner Buding just recently and this is not a paid blog not a requested blog. Gusto ko lang mag share kasi ang daming nagtatanong sa FB ko, and also ako ay product of failed SaYa noon so yun I wanna try it. Walang saysay BWM if di ako ma success. Also kaya ako nag di-disclaimer kasi excited na ako one day magsabi ohh this is a blog for an advertiser! charing! hahaha
July 4, 2011 § 11 Comments
Whew! We just had the Babywear Meet 2 last Saturday and until now am still catching my breath. It was a smashing success! So successful that it was close to being an epic fail. (The size was big but not too big that it became a failure but it was this close already so we are really feeling lucky.)
Back story muna before I kwento how it went. We had Babywear Meet 1 last April 2 (at the same venue) and had so fun we just had to do it again.
left to right: Charmaine & Cameron; Susan; Pat & JackJack; Me & Laya; JenCC; Abbie; Jenny; will research her name & Maricar with Joaquin)
I think it is because Babywear Meet 2 was planned early that’s why there’s so many who heard about it. A week or so before Jenny and I were chatting na mukhang madaming pupunta and we were excited and happy and decided we will do pocket demo para faster ang pace and smaller ang grouping thus mas may chance of learning. Then a few days before Jenny said yung RSVP sa FB page ba totoo kasi if totoo nasa 54 na ang yes. Ayun we kinda started prepping ourselves in case na totoo.
Here’s what happened.
We started when there were about 15 moms there na, Jenny explained the different kinds of carriers and introduced the makers/owners of the different carriers. Then off they go to help and explain to mommies how the carrier works. People started coming in at this point and just joined the groupings or bunching up of people. Me? I was worried and tensed on what Starbucks will do.
See the guard? He stayed for a few minutes probably contemplating how to kick us out. And this happened when maybe 60% pa lang of the people where there so it was more chaotic pa after this.
Those who were late please see the picture to know who’s who na lang. I think 75% didnt catch them being introduced eh. (click photo to know more about their products)
It was so much fun! But sadly graduate na kami sa Starbucks, we need to find a new place na.
Yes, we will have another one and will plan it better this time.
Those who went and would like to give their input, comments & suggestions kindly leave a comment here or thru my FB account or email me at benzcorana at gmail dot com.
Thank you everyone for making it so much fun last Saturday 🙂
Read more about the event at:
(pls send me link if you know of any)
Am planning a mommy event that is not just babywearing or brestfeeding but for mommies and daddies this time. Will just sit down first and list everything we learned from this one then plot the next activity. If you have ideas please send them our way.
Share ko lang kasi I was asked eh:
If I may ask – what did you accomplish from the meet? Is it more like a social thing – support/advocacy thing or is it a place for vendors to sell their stuff or is it both or is it more like an extension on N@W like a n@w related event? Sorry for the questions.
My goal is to help those who haven’t decided if babywearing is for them or not, for them to know the answer; also to those who have but havent used it to be able to use it na; and to those who are using na like me to explore other kinds if they are interested too. More on to connect the like minded mommies together lang. If the sellers get to sell am happy for them but di yun ang ultimate goal, but that would be a very nice bonus. I dont get anything but happy lang to connect kasi it is SO easy or me to link them up. User ako and I know what I want and I assume others want the same too kaya I just base it on myself, then may network na at the same time may nawies. Though this is more of the FB world (kasi those who came and made it possible were friends of friends na) than n@w but it is me being a nawie that pushes me to do this so for me para sa n@w ito.
Who chooses who are the invited sellers.
For this one and the previous one wala, whoever na kilala ng mga friends and friends of friends, it is an open invite to all we just bugged those brands we love to go kasi nga we believe in them. Basta criteria lang is to go and share the love of babywear, not to go and sell.
Who is the organizer?
Hmm Me, Jenny, Abbie, JenCC & Charmaine started the first one. We were pushing thru with it maski kaming 5 lang but we ended up with more.. and the rest they say is history.
That’s all. Will add na lang if there’s more.