Kite’s Breastfeeding Story

August 2, 2011 § 2 Comments

Let me share with you my story on breastfeeding Kite.

Abet & I just got married when we had Kite, being so young and ideal, we wanted the purest and the best. We started by taking the Birthing Class from Chiqui Brosas-Hahn, there we also learned about breastfeeding.

When Kite arrived we breastfed, when she feed in one breast the other would leak so I was told that means I have lots of milk. And I believed. But when Kite was 10 days old she developed fever for a few hours, my sister told me to have her checked since fever is not normal for newborn. We went to her pedia the next day, she was surprised to see Kite lost weight. She was scared Kite might have sepsis and is poor in sucking that is why she isn’t able to take enough milk. She made us go home and asked us to monitor Kite’s intake and output; and to also make her consume at least 20-24 oz of milk in 24 hours, if she cant then we need to confine her, also to get urine sample for testing and culture. She peed so little and trying to catch them in a container was so hard, it was midnight when we were finally able to get some sample.  The next day we brought her to the doctor and we were still told we need to confine her as she barely drank the day before and her pee is not enough.  We stayed in a hospital room but her temperature kept dropping she was at 25 or 26 degrees already, the room was already warm still she was cold.

wrapped but temp isstill low

The next day we decided to let her stay in the NICU where nurses can watch her round the clock and she can be in an incubator where temperature is controlled, our pedia also told us that she wants Kite seen by a neo-natalogist (a specialist on newborn babies).  Oh I can still remember the fear inside us as doctors can’t pinpoint what was wrong with her, all test are negative but her behaviors showed sepsis. She was given antibiotics but it wasn’t working. They got urine to test, to culture, her blood too for test and they even performed a spinal tap on her to test and culture.  I clearly remember asking the neonatalogist if there is a chance we wont be able to bring our baby home alive. (Months before the son of our good friend passed away, it started with a simple fever caused by a heart problem and in a matter of weeks their baby was gone.) We can just watching her behind a glass window not allowed to be inside the room where her incubator/insolite was.  We got to touch her only when she started improving and was just allowed to touch her inside the incubator, cant hug nor kiss her 😦 Oh this is such horrible time for us, and add to that our savings were depleting! The day she was brought to the doctor was the day I stopped breastfeeding. My doctor actually said we can breastfeed even when she is in NICU we just stay at the corridor and the nurses will call us when she is hungry, but I didnt want to anymore. Breastfeeding drained me so much when we were still at home.  She was always crying at night and I would  jump off the bed to go to her which caused the first layer of my stitches to tear. (My OB ordered me to bathe already and she cant allow me to continue geh lai custom of not taking a bath para di pasukin ng lamig). I was mostly on auto pilot due to lack of sleep and add the anxiety over a sick baby, it was so taxing. So asking me to continue breastfeeding and staying in the corridor hospital was not an option for me.  Oh! Kite started improving after the 5th or 6th day (it was a rollercoaster 6 days) and we were able to bring her home after 10 days I think. Diagnosis was clinical sepsis, all test were negative but symptoms were all there so clinical sepsis lang siya di siya sepsis. We spent as much on this hospitalization as on my birthing. She was hospitalized from August 17-29,1999.

Now did I regret not pursuing breastfeeding when she was back from the hospital? No because I felt so free na. (But if this happened now with me having access to so much support I would pursue relactating. Or most likely I would be pumping while she was in the hospital anyway.) Had there been enough support group then I would have made it I think.

Also breastfeeding Kite was an added reason why I never went back to smoking. I smoke before getting pregnant and stopped during pregnancy, though I wasn’t itching to smoke after giving birth still it dawned on me while breastfeeding that I can’t smoke even if I wanted to when childcare was becoming stressful.

Do I think mas stronger ang bond namin ni Kite if I breastfed? I dont know but we are quite very very well bonded so no regret too. Do I feel she’d be healthier? That I cannot answer.

Did I breastfeed my next child? Hell Yes! 16 months and counting…

Sa-Ya Carrier

July 8, 2011 § 6 Comments

SaYa is one carrier that proved to be challenging for me.  To some like Charmaine, Clarice & Elai, it was easy. I guess added to the fact that the size I got was wrong, I also didnt have the patience to learn it. I would succesfully to do it while being taught but I always how after some time. Last BWM2 Buding (creator of SaYa) taught me how and hers was simple so I got it. I was able to wear Laya last Tuesday then again today so I know I got it na. Do I like it? Am not yet closing the door on it but I still like the flexibility of the slingor maybe it is really hard to teach old dogs new tricks.  What I like about SaYa is it is easy on the back as the weight of baby is distributed equally on both shoulders. With the sling it is always my left shoulder carrying the load, I tried doing it on the other side but it felt awkward.  Will keep trying the SaYa pa. Thanks pala Nadine for lending me the Saya. Will return yours already. Am decided to buy my own already.

Anyway, I am quite ‘feeling’ so I will attempt to explain here how it is used, hopefully successful ako but if I am not, no worries Buding just made 4 videos to guide us. Also here‘s Elai explaining how it is done the HULA way. Diyan ako nag fail so yung mga tulad kong fail sa HULA try ninyo ang LEI.

Step 1 Just put the thing in your neck like a LEI

Step 2 Loosen/separate the two loops (it will feel natural) then it will look like a PRETZEL (spread the cloth na din in this part and find the seams para yun ang nasa middle to catch the butt of the baby)

Step 3 let it fall sa shoulder

Step 4 put arms in the loop na. tada! you have the X in front and X in the back now.

Step 5 ilagay na ang baby sa loob sa pinaka loob so it’s you then baby then the X in front. (please see this video of Buding. on how to do this step)

NOTE: pls make sure that the knees are higher than the butt; flatten the cloth or fold the cloth para mas swabe ang feeling.

Keep adjusting until you feel comfortable. You will learn it by always using it,so keep practicing till you get the hang of it..

Let me know if success ang aking explanation, if not kareerin ko ito, nacha-challenge ako eh.

 

Where to buy SaYa?

At Mama.Baby.Love or at Indigo Baby

I got mine sa Babyland, am quite disappointed kasi the saleslady was just eager to sell and maski mali yung size sige ok daw yun. Hay ayun I didnt like SaYa tuloy for the longest time. Pls note unang suot of baby dapat fit na fit kayo not maluwag, luluwag yan as you wear baby eh.

Please please be successful!

Here’s a success story: Legally Mom:THE SEARCH IS OVER

Disclaimer: I bought my SaYa and will buy my next SaYa, I met the owner Buding just recently and this is not a paid blog not a requested blog. Gusto ko lang mag share kasi ang daming nagtatanong sa FB ko, and also ako ay product of failed SaYa noon so yun I wanna try it. Walang saysay BWM if di ako ma success.  Also kaya ako nag di-disclaimer kasi excited na ako one day magsabi ohh this is a blog for an advertiser! charing! hahaha

 

Babywear Meet 2 – the aftermath

July 4, 2011 § 11 Comments

Whew! We just had the Babywear Meet 2 last Saturday and until now am still catching my breath. It was a smashing success! So successful that it was close to being an epic fail. (The size was big but not too big that it became a failure but it was this close already so we are really feeling lucky.)

Back story muna before I kwento how it went. We had Babywear Meet 1 last April 2 (at the same venue) and had so fun we just had to do it again.

Babywear Meet 1 - April 2

left to right: Charmaine & Cameron; Susan; Pat & JackJack; Me & Laya; JenCC; Abbie; Jenny; will research her name & Maricar with Joaquin)

I think it is because Babywear Meet 2 was planned early that’s why there’s so many who heard about it. A week or so before Jenny and I were chatting na mukhang madaming pupunta and we were excited and happy and decided we will do pocket demo para faster ang pace and smaller ang grouping thus mas may chance of learning.  Then a few days before Jenny said yung RSVP sa FB page ba totoo kasi if totoo nasa 54 na ang yes.  Ayun we kinda started prepping ourselves in case na totoo.

Here’s what happened.

We started when there were about 15 moms there na, Jenny explained the different kinds of carriers and introduced the makers/owners of the different carriers. Then off they go to help and explain to mommies how the carrier works. People started coming in at this point and just joined the groupings or bunching up of people. Me? I was worried and tensed on what Starbucks will do.

See the guard? He stayed for a few minutes probably contemplating how to kick us out. And this happened when maybe 60% pa lang of the people where there so it was more chaotic pa after this.

early during the day

chaotic na

Those who were late please see the picture to know who’s who na lang. I think 75% didnt catch them being introduced eh. (click photo to know more about their products)

Denise of IndigoBaby

Pam of BosomBuddy

JenCC of Next9

Buding of SaYa Carrier

Jonie of Mamaway

Abbie (nakatalikod) Maya Wrap distributor & Velvet of Arugaan

Jenny of Mama.Baby.Love and wife of Stan Ong of Stork Studio

Elai, The Painter's Wife assisting mommies

Cats, Kraze Kitch bakeshop assisting mommies too

It was so much fun! But sadly graduate na kami sa Starbucks, we need to find a new place na.

Class Picture

supportive daddies

wedding meets parenthood

we did it, guys! until the next one 🙂

Yes, we will have another one and will plan it better this time.

Those who went and would like to give their input, comments & suggestions kindly leave a comment here or thru my FB account or email me at benzcorana at gmail dot com.

Thank you everyone for making it so much fun last Saturday 🙂

Read more about the event at:

Babywearing Goes Boom!

Babywearing!!!

This babywearing mom is not alone!

DaintyMom was at the 2nd Babywearing Meet!

Babywearing, Cymplified!

(pls send me link if you know of any)

Am planning a mommy event that is not just babywearing or brestfeeding but for mommies and daddies this time. Will just sit down first and list everything we learned from this one then plot the next activity. If you have ideas please send them our way.

Share ko lang kasi I was asked eh:

If I may ask – what did you accomplish from the meet?  Is it more like a social thing – support/advocacy thing or is it a place for vendors to sell their stuff or is it both or is it more like an extension on N@W like a n@w related event?  Sorry for the questions.

My goal is to help those who haven’t decided if babywearing is for them or not, for them to know the answer; also to those who have but havent used it to be able to use it na; and to those who are using na like me to explore other kinds if they are interested too. More on to connect the like minded mommies together lang.  If the sellers get to sell am happy for them but di yun ang ultimate goal, but that would be a very nice bonus. I dont get anything but happy lang to connect kasi it is SO easy or me to link them up.  User ako and I know what I want and I assume others want the same too kaya I just base it on myself, then may network na at the same time may nawies. Though this is more of  the FB world (kasi those who came and made it possible were friends of friends na) than n@w but it is me being a nawie that pushes me to do this so for me para sa n@w  ito.

Who chooses who are the invited sellers.

For this one and the previous one wala, whoever na kilala ng mga friends and friends of friends, it is an open invite to all we just bugged those brands we love to go kasi nga we believe in them.  Basta criteria lang is to go and share the love of babywear, not to go and sell.

Who is the organizer?

Hmm Me, Jenny, Abbie, JenCC & Charmaine started the first one. We were pushing thru with it maski kaming 5 lang but we ended up with more.. and the rest they say is history.

That’s all. Will add na lang if there’s more.

Cesca

Babywearing Dad

July 1, 2011 § 7 Comments

Am posting this to suck up to darling hubby. It is our Babywear Meet 2 and am planning to come home with a new sling or pouch 🙂

Here is a photoblog of hubby wearing Laya in different kinds of carriers.

Laya @ 5 weeks. The very first time Laya was worn. I super liked how Laya's shape is outlined. Hmph I wish I had such a shot!

If not for Didda insisting we use the sling in this trip to Cebu, we might not have used the sling till now.  We saw how comfortable Laya was inside the sling, so comfortable that I was able to go swimming and spend time with Kite in the pool because Laya was sleeping soundly (though sweating like crazy) while in the sling.

*pabida muna: I was in the pool when I took this shot, I saw the outline and asked Didda to hand me the camera and took it from that low kaya ganda ng shot *ehem ehem*

Front carry using the SaYa, one of the few times the SaYa is used

SaYa as high chair hehehe *sweet ni Achi Kite noh*

Front facing using the maya wrap

Backpack carrier at Rox BHS

Ito daw type niya, kanonood ng NatGeo kala niya backpacker siya.

Kathmandu Backpack Carrier. Gift from Fairy GodSister

According to Mimi ito yung Hunghangaroo

another angle of the carrier

Good luck and excited to go to the Babywear Meet. May it be as successful as the first one and as fun too! Interested? Go na!

Gadgets ang gizmos aplenty…

June 27, 2011 § 9 Comments

I was thinking about this on and off for days (napapisip ako kasing bumili pero di ko alam magiging reaction ng asawa ko) and suddenly Tonet told me to blog this. Imagine my happiness and kilabot… feeling ko sign na bilhin ko na nga (mabasa sana ng asawa ko at umagree).   Here goes…

do you know what this is?

Saw this at my friend’s house early this year. I found it cool and impractical kasi ang mahal (nasa P23,000 yan kasi large at Dyson ang tatak – weh ano ngayon kung Dyson ang tatak? apparently sikat yata yung Dyson.. oh well) at sa Singaporepa pa nila binili, but di ako interested curious lang so deadma lang. Mas interesado ako sa kanya as conversation piece kesa as fan, kaya nag mobile upload na lang ako see the discussion sa FB Thread on my wall re this. So I got na what I want, no reason to buy it anymore.

Fast forward to early this month. I saw a picture sa FB na may pre selling of something like this.

Uyy napatanong ako how much, wala lang not interested lang malaman how much (P3,000 daw pre selling nung June 2).  Hmm it was not mura, but di na din sing mahal nung orig 15% na lang ang presyo eh. Different ang brand nito, di ako nag research about this kasi nga natuwa lang ako di naman akong interesado curious lang.

Fast forward again to a week ago. Si Laya girl naglalakad na since early this month, last month testing lang, but because di naman siya stable pa laging sinusundan ng nagbabantay, either si yayang bagong rebond na bagay sa kanya at P1200 or si didda, or ako or si achi Kite. BUT last week since stable na siya maglakad hinahayaan na namin siya pa lakad lakad sinusundan na lang ng tingin, now ko lang narealize nyeks delikado yung electric fan, diyos ko po, iniisip ko pa lang nagcri-cringe na ako. Hmm may sense yata yung Dyson na yan… hmm magkano nga ulit yung sabi nung seller dito sa Pinas (di ko maalala eh).  Pero inisip ko lang naman di ko naman hinanap at di ko na din pinansin kasi tuwing nasa computer ako nawawala siya sa isip ko naaalala ko lang tuwing nagbabantay ako kay Laya sa sala.

Then FB ko kanina si Tonet, nabangit niya na naalala niya yung kakaibang klaseng fan, iblog ko daw. Aba tama gusto ko ngang hanapin ulit magkano, tama tama, gawin ko ngayon… sandali di ba sign siya na bilhin na nga (sign din kaya ito sa tingin ng asawa ko?) hmm… abangan natin ano magiging comment niya dito or better yet abangan ninyo kung ma update ko itong blog with a picture of OUR fan.

Yun lang, ginagamit ko lang yung blog na ito para magparinig sa asawa ko at pasayahin si Tonet *feeling hahaha* :)p

Kayo sang-ayon ba kayo na bumili kami ng fan para di maaksidente ang baby namin? Kesa sa ER ibayad eh di prevention na lang.  *nanghihikayat ng buyo*

If di maapprove ng asawa I will need to dig the N@W archives re the electric fan cover… I tried finding it kanina di ko mahanap.. sign yata na di ko kailangan ng electric fan cover hahaha.

PS.

Nag PM ako sa seller kanina (para updated na info ang mabibigay ko) kung may stock, magkano etc, aba meron pa daw at may parating pang elliptical at P3600 at abangan na lang yung specs dito sa album at free shipping to Metro Manila pa din. Please direct inquiries to them ha, ayaw ko maging operator if ever. Dinagdag ko itong PS para makapag disclosure ako… I do not know the seller, haven’t met her, just met her thru FB and wala akong commission.

of Dogs & Sands

June 25, 2011 § 3 Comments

Two months ago, Laya is scared of dogs & hate sands. Now look at these pictures 🙂

Laya & Luna (that's Luna licking Laya)

playing with sands

When we went to Australia last summer, there’s a pet dog in the backyard of my sister in law Ellen’s house.  Luna, the dog (more pigly than dogly though as he never barked but sometimes snorts) is Josh’s pet (Josh is Laya’s favorite cousin, right Josh?). Thinking Laya would be interested and that this is a good chance to teach her to say ‘aww aww aww’ I had her stay in the backyard with me but I think Luna was too enthusiastic and it scared Laya.  For a long time she was really scared and would not even let Luna touch any part of her, not even her toes. And when Luna goes near the screen door she’d really go away, she doesnt even allow Luna to look at her hahaha exagg.  Towards the end of our trip Didda tried to slowly make Laya and Luna friends and he was successful, how successful? Here check out this Laya & Luna album, you can see how comfortable Laya was, she was even allowing Luna to keep licking her face (a lot of times before John, Ellen’s hubby, got the camera and a lot more during). Ahh di naman bawal ito noh? baka ma TV Patrol kami. I was really grossed out but I figured letting Luna lick her face wont cause her harm but would in fact take her dog fear away. True enough, friends na sila, she would even say Luna-na-na-na na when we about to leave Oz na.

Next kwento Laya hated the sand, Boracay super fine white sands na yan. There goes my building sandcastle plans…

she do not like the sand at all

We kept trying, a month and a half after, we got this shot, she needs to be washed with water so sand wont stick to her hands and feet.

sand furniture

Last May we went to El Nido again she wouldnt want her feet touching the sand, except when the sand is hard na.  Dunno how, but Didda, I think kept playing with her and the next time I saw them, she is playing with sands already.

Whenever I tell people Laya do not like sands I am always told that’s normal. I assumed that it is really normal but at the back of our head, we were kinda scared something is wrong. We know kasi somebody who was scared of sand yung pala she have sensory perception problem. Kaya for others sands was no big deal but for me it was kinda a yardstick and seeing her finally enjoy sand gave us a sigh of relief 🙂

Wala lang, share share lang. I think tama si Tiger Mom, you just need to push the kids and not protect them too much so they can soar. I believe how a child grows up to be rest solely on the way the parents brought them up.

Case in point. I remember Kite when she was little. She had tooth problem and after going to the dentist because her two front teeth hurt, we told her no more candies and for a year or two she didn’t have any, no struggle at all, she’d would not even take it if candy is offered. I was so proud of her and was thinking wow super galing pala ng daughter ko she knows naman what is right and wrong so I bought her sugar free lollipop from one of the health store… opps stupid me.  She went back to eating candy after that, of course I explained sugar free candy but wala too late na I broke the bawal barrier and yun na the wall crumbled. Yes yes I know I know na so dumb of me… hay hindsight 20-20. Ayun that really confirms na mga bata at mga mali ng bata caused by parents yan.

Little Cutie Kite

June 24, 2011 § 4 Comments

Didda’s signature for Kite

Was doing a mini cleaning last week and I came across a letter from Kite’s Kinder guidance counselor. Was just looking for one cute childhood picture of Kite but ended up getting so many. So please indulge me. I want to share din Kite’s childhood as Laya’s childhood is so exposed.


7 months old (photo by Child’s Play)
1 year old at her Up-Up-and-Away Party (photo by Fol Rana, Jr.; kite gown by Jontie Martinez)

2 years old (photo by Auey Santos)

3 years old

4 years old at her Barrio Fiesta Party (photo by Fol Rana, Jr.)

4 years old (photo by Mel Cortez)

5 years old

6 years old

7 years old at her ‘Down-the-Aisle’ Party (photo by Fol Rana, Jr.)

8 years old

9 years old (photo by The Picture Company)

10 years old (photo by Oly Ruiz of MetroPhoto)

When Kite was still in Kinder I’d drive her to school everyday and wait for her in school, naturally I’d ask how her day was after, she is madaldal and makulit but not makwento so it is hard to find out how she is at school. But one day she complained of some Kinder-Daisy girls (other classroom ito) who would go and pick her up every recess, they’d force her daw to play and join them. I was very concerned and was scared that this might lead to bullying so I told the guidance counselor to talk to Kite about it. She acted immediately on this and was able to send me this feedback in a week’s time. Galing noh? And I was also relieved and kilig, so I kept the letter.

 

(Why did I think of going to the guidance office? Because they have Kite’s trust. Kite would tell me na their guidance counselor said to go to them if they have problems in school and at home and even if the problem is the parent. I enthusiastically encouraged her coz I wanted her to have someone she can talk to without censor and fear.)

Yun lang. Gusto ko lang ipagyabang cute anak ko, at hindi lang sa paningin ko pati sa ibang tao 🙂

*stage mom*

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