August 2, 2011 § 9 Comments
After sharing my Breastfeeding Story of Kite. Here is Laya’s naman:
We had Laya 11 years after Kite and 11 years din after forming NewlywedsAtWork (N@W) so we were armed with a thriving support group whose members have practically been through everything that could possibly happen, we have all kinds of moms there: breastfeeding moms, formula feeding moms, mixed feeders, those who had a hard time breastfeeding, never attempted breastfeeding, longing to be a mom, wouldn’t want to be a mom ever, being a mom more often than they would want to and what have you. I knew motherhood will be so much more fun this time with so many mommies to run to for any of my most trivial questions. I knew my chances of successfully breastfeeding Laya is high, as I am very good friends with Velvet and Abbie who are experts and studied breastfeeding (their actual title escape me now); am friends too with Jenny who’s blog Chronicles of a Nursing Mom is all about breastfeeding; am friends with a lot of the members of Latch (another breastfeeding group) and there’s so many breastfeeding moms in N@W (that we can even form our own breastfeeding group if needed), need I add more? Ahh I almost forgot, hubby Abet is I think keener than me in making this breastfeeding business a success.
Hubby would bribe me by saying sige breastfeed ka, if you are still breastfeeding mag Cebu na tayo as reward by May. Syempre ako atat sa lakwatcha kaya effective naman his idea. We stayed in a hotel muna for a night to try it out. Successful kami so we went to Tagaytay for a night the week after to see if we can do it again and see how Laya behaves to traveling, aba it was easy! Off we went to Cebu as soon as Laya turned 1 month old 🙂 Hiya ko lang tumigil after Cebu diba? hahaha
Seriously, I think what really clinched it for me was hearing Mimi say I never entertained the thought I wont be able to breastfeed, basta ako mag be-breastfeed, it was so simple, yet so powerful! Whenever I wanted to stop or doubted I would remember how she said it and I remember, of course I am going to continue breastfeeding.
Let me start on the day I gave birth. I was induced March 29 and had Laya that afternoon. Wasn’t able to see Laya again til 12 hours after, by then I was told she was given glucose water already. Am old na, I dont sweat the small stuff anymore. Fine, I just told the nurse nothing anymore after that kasi I will purely breastfeed. I tried to make Laya latch and was so happy she took it in so naturally but she wasn’t hungry and was more interested to sleep. Me too, I wanted to sleep too so I went back to my room na but I requested rooming in of Laya as soon as possible. Well she was roomed afternoon na. And Velvet, my one and only visitor (we didn’t let friends visit kasi we intend to breastfeed so we dont know the schedule when Laya would want to feed, ayaw ko naman mag feed with visitors around; she dont do personalvisits anymore ha, she did it for me lang kasi love niya ako heheh) was able to visit me that day to help make sure I will be off to a good start. She watched and taught me how to latch, taught us to look at the jaw to watch and listen to her swallow, to feed and feed and feed by demand, to not even look at the clock and worry just let baby lead, to put as much of the areola in and make sure it is not just the nipple (it is the nerves in the areola that signals the mind to produce milk) most common mistake is the latching, if you latch right I think there’s 80% success. Velvet also taught us how to massage Laya. We had a smooth breastfeeding routine with Laya at the hospital that night.
As we were about to discharge from the hospital the next day I felt pain in my nape, it felt exactly what they said high blood pressure would feel like, had my BP taken yes it was getting high. I was still discharged but what I was feeling was scary na. Got home and immediately texted Nay Lita Nery (lactating masseuse) to help relax me and at the same time make sure latching is correct. She came and taught me how to feed lying down and I think 2 more positions. My BP remained high and went higher pa. The fact it was Maundy Thursday made things worse for me as I didnt want to go to the hospital on Good Friday all my doctors are away! To make things worst I was also instructed by my OB not to take care of Laya and I am not allowed to breastfeed at night! Huwat? I didnt want to feed formula and I didnt have extra milk. Worst I didnt have a yaya as the yaya who will take care of Laya is our helper whom I haven’t trained yet. And hubby the only other possible person to take care is sniffing and looks like he is going to get sick! Oh that was one super stressful Thursday for me. Lucky I have friends! First Dee came to the rescue she not only gave me milk, she delivered it pa! I had no way of getting the milk at this point (this is also why whenever I donate and I feel that the mom or dad asking for the milk have no way of getting I do personal deliver of the milk as much as I can, aside from not knowing how to handle the milk it is a really a very busy time for new parents). Milk problem solved! Now I needed someone to care for Laya, one whom I can safely leave Laya with, lucky for me Medical City’s nurse station helped me secure one. Sigh! All my immediate problems are solved. The midwife stayed with us that night and cup fed Laya. I wasnt able to sleep a wink. It was hard having somebody else in our bedroom and I missed Laya too. Oh added to the already stressful situation was my dilemna, all the ge-lai food I should eat are also the same food a high blood patient shouldn’t be eating ayayyay! Good think my childhood friend Nancy (my friend since I was 1 year old) took me under her wing, she’d cook a big pot of whatever food I am to eat that day, she’d bring it to me before lunch and then I would reheat the remaining portion for dinner (inaagawan pa ako ni Abet! kasi yummy) she’d carefully choose and ask what are the food allowed sa ge-lai and allowed sa high blood, yes fish nga with lotsa soup! She’d bring it to our place while I am asleep and would teach my helper what to do with it. Am so blessed with so many friends talaga those days! We got over the high blood episode on Easter Sunday (so apt no?), and the midwifes trained Laya’s yaya on how to care for a baby too, she can do everything except she is not comfortable giving Laya a bath. Fair enough, I am also not comfortable entrusting Laya’s bath to her yet.
Breastfeeding Laya was smooth but it was hard. There’s pain, lack of sleep, doubts and a whole lot of other things. Major was the feeling na I cant function, cant do anything kasi a needy child is relying on me and would need me anytime. I remember it was Mother’s Day and I was awake middle of the night so I took that time to greet my mommy friends and hopefully disrupt their sleep. I was at this point wanting to stop breastfeeding na kasi am tired and aching and was really finding a valid reason to stop. Eh yun nga wala akong nahanap na reason so I went on. Every step of the way when the going got tough I would do mass texting, (my regular text victims were Velvet, Abbie, Jenny, Rica, JenCC, Dee, Mimi… either some or all of them hmm forgot who else) always may 2 or 3 na sasagot hehe. I also started going to Abbie’s La Leche Meet and also Breastfriend at Mary the Queen. I started going with so many hang ups, questions and I got my groove there. So my BF Support Group friends saw me turn into a swan. They were with me through all my issues and now am with them egging the newer ones to go on. Now am paying it forward na.
Why am I blogging about my breastfeeding story? 1. It is breastfeeding month kasi. and 2. After reading Confessions of a milk machine and Breastfeeding: It’s a Choice I felt the urge to blog or say my piece. But I also do not like to be perceived as puro breastfeeding na lang. The blog by Frances or better known as TopazMommy, I don’t want to be a lactivist, is so so true. So there.
While I am on a roll let me share na din Why I love breastfeeding.
1. It is so convenient. We just bring a small bag with change of diapers and clothes and a small towel to wipe and we are ready to go anywhere.
2. Because I breastfeed, I had a very easy time taking care of Laya, imagine we went on an overnight stay before she turned 1 month and had her riding an airplane by 6 weeks old, went out of the country for 6 weeks when she turned one.
3. Breastfeeding is the solution to everything! She falls? I feed her and she is ok; She is cranky? I feed her and she is ok; She got hurt? I feed her and she is ok; when she wants something she cant have and is about to throw a fit, I show her my booby and she forgets everything. Breastfeeding her solved EVERYTHING!
4. You know whats amazing, you have booby antennas that tells you your kid is hungry, you actually feel it before she cries that it is feeding time! The things you will realizes are simply so amazing.
5. I watch her feed and the muscle movements from her cheek, tongue and jaws am sure help her so much, while bottle feeder just suck and the milk comes out, the breastfeeder work on it so early and get to use na their muscles.
6. A breastfeeding baby can detect boobies even while asleep. This one still amazes me until now. Sometimes at night I just watch her and she knows which direction to face and when to open her mouth! Amazing talaga.
7. Breastmilk cures everything. I was a cynic too at first, OA naman yan ano magic? Have a cut? Rash? Itch? Put breastmilk and it really does cure! Did it and it worked 🙂
Miss U moments:
People who made it possible for me and helped me with this mommy journey!
Velvet – who would be my rah rah girl talaga throughout the journey. Did I also mention I met up with her for a one on one session on what to do with a newborn aside from about breastfeeding? And when I was looking for a midwife to care for Laya and was not getting anywhere she even offered to yaya Laya sa house namin, papahatid siya kay Atan and stay the night in our place, grabe my heart was filled with gratitude for that text she sent. Super duper thank you Velvet! I owe you!
Dee – she sent me milk when I wasn’t able to breastfeed, if I resorted to formula then and had a taste of convenience I am pretty sure I it would be super hard for me and will constantly be tempted. I also learned from her how to pack and freeze the milk, hers was so flat and so pretty to look at!
Mimi – since she is always no nonsense and frills free I go to her when I am stressed and true enough her ways are the simplest.
Rica – she is like me oldie na and habol baby na lang ito so we can relate with each other, her amazing story of being able to pump 16 oz in one sitting helped motivate me to reach that level.
Nancy, Grace & Morning – oh these are my childhood friends who fed me and made sure I dont stop the ge lai thing. Morning and I had a one on one session too on the meds and drinks to take.
Abbie, Jenny, JenCC, Rica – for always receiving my text and for most of the times replying 🙂
Didda – for making it so clear stop breastfeeding is not an option.
Laya is 16 months old now and we are still breastfeeding. She’s been taking solids since she was 6.5 months old and had her first taste of cow’s milk in Australia. Am now trying to let her get used to the taste of cows milk so she have milk to drink when I go out at night in preparation for the time I go out of the country. She is so loving the chocolate milk from MilkMan, yung fresh milk sometimes she likes sometimes she doesn’t, so what we do we milk the choco milk with milk na lang.
Again, if you are breastfeeding or would like to breastfeed, please know you can drop me a line here or thru my email or thru my facebook or text me if you have it. Would be more than happy to be part of your breastfeeding journey.
July 26, 2011 § 3 Comments
The itch for another tatt has been with me for quite some time. Then I got pregnant so had to put it on hold then I was busy with a newborn and now that she is one am once again itching to get one.
Problem is I dont know what yet and I dont know where pa.
Our first is soooo faded na it is so lame already.
Who are the recommended tattoo artist? Saan kaya ako pa tattoo? Ano kaya palagay ko? Should I choose the infrared ones?
I like something like Angelina Jolie yung map coordinates of her kids.
Before I wanted to have this sana…
But with Laya now, parang di na pwede ito.
Hmmm any idea?
July 15, 2011 § Leave a comment
Hay been wanting to blog but had 3 blogs that are still in the draft. The all went awry as I write them. They led their own life until I didnt know why I started them in the first place. Anyway, just blabbering away here so I have something to publish 🙂 haha and maybe then I wont be stuck na.
Watched Harry Potter 7 today. Hmm I feel like I am the only one not sad it ended. The length of time from my first discovery of the book till today (showing of the last book) took it’s toll on me. I used to be so knowledgeable about it but when Book 6 came I was kinda just reading it for sentimental reasons and (horrors) I haven’t even finished book 7. Oh well, another chapter ended. Am more excited for Twilight actually 🙂 I sometimes still listen to the audiobook of all the Twilight books… I remember how I got hooked and finished all 4 four in one week (Thanks to My for lending them to me).
Yun lang. Will go back to the 3 drafts and see if any of them will get posted.
In the meantime, you guys might want to join the Milk Mama Diaries – Blog Carnival for July I will try to see if I can submit one.
July 7, 2011 § 8 Comments
Hay have you ever read a blog where the ALL of that blogger’s opinion you agree with or even share? Am a follower of a lot of blogs (hmm not that many naman wala pang 8 yung talagang alam ko lahat lahat ng content at nabasa ko buong blog) but I don’t agree with ALL thoughts and opinion but with Topaz girl hay am so agreeing with everything and the more I read her blog the more nagiging fan ako. I started with TopazMommy, hay super relate ako syempre. Some of my opinions na realize ko lang after reading hers (gets niyo? parang magulo basta!), eh natapos ko na yung TopazMommy so I moved to TopazHorizon, I started the present am now on Jan 2011 (you know the feeling of watching telenobela in dvd and you feel part ka na nila kasi you spend so much time watching? kinda ganyan feeling ko kasi I am spending hours reading her blog everynight while feeding Laya, I actually feel like a stalker but am calling myself a fan lang) and am so so so a fan na I just had to express how much I love her blog! One of these days I will go back to her blog and comment (na feel ko sarap ng may comment sa blog so I assume she’d want that too but then my blog is not in her league so baka no big deal na din sa kanya ang comments… but am too busy reading up na di na ako nag cocomment but while reading at the back of my mind I want to stand up and blog and say yes yes what she said is so true and I agree so much! also hirap mag comment via mobile) She is so honest and she writes so nicely. Hay the more I know her thru her blog the more I am so impressed. Hay if only am not in a hurry I would link all the blog entries na I agree with. Basta super fan ako! If my blog gets as famous as hers (am not sure I want that as she just said nawawala yung voice niya as the blog get popular) I hope am I as nice as her… ha! di pa famous blog ko eh di na ako as nice eh. oh well will keep reading and hopefully I channel her niceness. I also know the nice person sa blog is not 100% her syempre she wouldnt show naman her not so nice side but I am realistic and I can smell a nasty person a mile away so I know she is nice. I find her so pretty too!
Am just so happy she is getting such big breaks in her life as she said nga she worked hard for all of this and I so agree and am happy the universe is giving her such a charmed life now. Throwing good vibes and wishes to you Frances!
Yun lang. Fan post lang. Ha ha am actually thinking if I should post this or not. Have several friends who are her friends am dyahe if this gets to her. Di ako ready!
Let’s see if I post this or not. Laya will be the one to decide, if she lets me finish this or if she cries and I stop.
Read Vince’s writing re Frances & their baby now I wish there’s a TopazDaddy or TopazHubby, that would make so many girls swoon! Am not so into gadget but let’s see if I’d be interested in his blog too.
July 4, 2011 § 9 Comments
I dont remember husband Abet telling me about Pranjetto before but I heard him say he wanted to bring us there on Pinoy Scooter Podcast so it was one of those we-will-do-that-one-of-these-day-thing. That day came this morning. Backgrounder. Pranjetto Hills is a place in Tanay Rizal where they usually ride, it is sort of like a Baguio-in-Manila place view of the mountain range (Sierra Madre) then cool weather, as he’d say ‘di mo maiisip ang lapit mo lang sa Manila’ I was sold on the view and the weather. This is also usually where new rides try out rides before going on a longer trip.
On with my kwento: we had a jampacked Saturday so it was easy to sleep early Saturday night. We left for Rizal at 7:45am. IT was: Kanlungan – Dra. Asanza (buy milk); Sierra Madre Hotel (Tapang Usa); Pranjetto (Zorb); Camp Papinpin (Erap’s mansion); Regina Rica; Carmel of Mary Star of the Sea.
This IT was formed by reading lang comments from our FB Friends: Thanks to Eduardo Gemino, whose comment about the fresh milk, started the urge to go already; Ann Cruz & Mimi Lazaro for all the tips and Len for the photos of her trips here.
Photoblog of our mini outing:
That is his favorite sight daw so I claim it to be Didda’s Mountain!
After touring Erap’s Placewe went to see Regina Rica.
Then off we went to find a place for lunch and to buy milk.
Was sppose to eat Tapang usa at Sierra Madre Hotel but we didnt want to wake Kite & Laya ‘s soundly. So we just went to look for Kanlungan, but they have no milk daw as the cows are resting muna, maybe at the end of the month na.
Things we saw along the way:
I love sceneries and I wished Sierra Madre was more visible, kinda like how the scenery is on the way to Ilocos, lahat maganda! Here kasi there’s so many talahib so you cant fully appreciate the mountain ranges. Except here…
So I got this shot 🙂
We had lunch at Grilla in Antipolo and Laya thoroughly enjoyed the playground! Oh what a joy to see a child laughing and having so much fun!
We had a fun family day 🙂 Pag uwi tulog kami!
June 24, 2011 § 4 Comments
Was doing a mini cleaning last week and I came across a letter from Kite’s Kinder guidance counselor. Was just looking for one cute childhood picture of Kite but ended up getting so many. So please indulge me. I want to share din Kite’s childhood as Laya’s childhood is so exposed.
7 months old (photo by Child’s Play)
- 1 year old at her Up-Up-and-Away Party (photo by Fol Rana, Jr.; kite gown by Jontie Martinez)
2 years old (photo by Auey Santos)
4 years old at her Barrio Fiesta Party (photo by Fol Rana, Jr.)
5 years old
7 years old at her ‘Down-the-Aisle’ Party (photo by Fol Rana, Jr.)
9 years old (photo by The Picture Company)
10 years old (photo by Oly Ruiz of MetroPhoto)
When Kite was still in Kinder I’d drive her to school everyday and wait for her in school, naturally I’d ask how her day was after, she is madaldal and makulit but not makwento so it is hard to find out how she is at school. But one day she complained of some Kinder-Daisy girls (other classroom ito) who would go and pick her up every recess, they’d force her daw to play and join them. I was very concerned and was scared that this might lead to bullying so I told the guidance counselor to talk to Kite about it. She acted immediately on this and was able to send me this feedback in a week’s time. Galing noh? And I was also relieved and kilig, so I kept the letter.
(Why did I think of going to the guidance office? Because they have Kite’s trust. Kite would tell me na their guidance counselor said to go to them if they have problems in school and at home and even if the problem is the parent. I enthusiastically encouraged her coz I wanted her to have someone she can talk to without censor and fear.)
Yun lang. Gusto ko lang ipagyabang cute anak ko, at hindi lang sa paningin ko pati sa ibang tao 🙂
June 18, 2011 § 11 Comments
Happy Father’s Day to…
our very own superhero
no, you’re a rockstar!
You’re the best babysitter to the kids
keeping them balanced…
and so porma…
May you grow up faster than the kids…
yet remain as creative
and as nationalistic…
yes DARING! (or shameless?)
May you always find time to always bond with the kids…
and to play
with them and make our home so much more enjoyable.
Happy Father’s Day!
We love you!
June 14, 2011 § 14 Comments
Yoohoo! I have my own domain name now!
Been thinking for the past few days on what I want my blog title to be, it took me days still I came up with nothing (am not the creative one in the fam!) so I told hubby about my name problem and he asked what will my topic be, I said anything I want lang, am guessing it will probably be about motherhood and traveling, he said eh di use benzrana na lang, am not solved but it made sense besides I wanna get started already and see if I will be interested in this blogging thing for long or will it be just a passing fancy. Anyway this morning I created benzrana dot wordpress dot com. It was just ok but am not too excited with the name, am just happy am moving forward. While I was away he texted if I’d like MimmaBenz [dot] com, I DID! I told you am not the creative one in the fam, he is! So now I have my domain name yehey. Thanks Didda! (Haha you can also guess who came up with the names Mimma & Didda huh)
And I am pretty sure before I know it, I’d have my avatar, my page masthead and everything else pretty *either I know him well or I am throwing hints* you decide. And he also did the masthead and my blog icon 🙂 Yippee! All set for the public now.
June 14, 2011 § 3 Comments
I’ve always played with the idea of blogging but never got around to making one. I spent so much time reading other people’s blogs and now am ready for my own. I don’t actually have a focus topic in mind so it will be mostly about whatever interests me and also on stuff I learned which I wish to share. Will most probably start by reposting what I have previously written either in Facebook or in N@W (NewlywedsAtWork eGroup).